By Kriss Garcia
There comes a time in most fire professionals’ careers when they look around and realize they aren’t where they thought they would be. They aren’t wearing the brass they thought they would be wearing and they aren’t doing what they thought they would be doing.
For myriad reasons, people end up where they end up — some do it consciously others subconsciously. Regardless of how you got to where you are, focus on the positive rather than the negative. Look at what you have accomplished, who you have helped, what good has been attributed to your actions and, most importantly, if you have done what is right.
I knew I wanted to write about leadership or motivation in the fire service, but didn’t know what kind of reception I would get or what kind of audience it would appeal to. I knew I had to say things that for many departments are like the 300-pound gorilla no one chooses to notice.
Many leaders — regardless of their rank or lack thereof — stand up for what is right, knowing that there will be a personal cost. Many of these individuals find themselves marked as instigators or are accused of not being team players for doing nothing more than what they believe is right.
What is it that they are doing wrong? Why is doing what was right sometimes so difficult, so costly?
Once I met a wise old man named Roger Crowley, a retired actor and collector of John Wayne memorabilia. We started to chat, and before long our mutual admiration for John Wayne was taking up most of the conversation.
Roger noted the direct relationship between John Wayne, The American Legend and the fire service, an american legend. I told Roger of a rationalization I had been using as of late — I watched too much John Wayne as a kid. This poignant yet thoughtful position struck me as the reason why some professionals find themselves somewhere other than where they thought they’d be. When I told this older, rugged yet striking gentleman this statement, he smiled, paused looked up to the now red sky and said “Yea, but when you do what the Duke would have done, don’t it just make you feel good?”
We talked about a great quote or saying that would encompass the ideals of John Wayne and the fire service but found it hard to settle on a single one. We knew that John Wayne wanted to be remembered in these simple words Feo, Fuerte j formal which translated means “He was ugly, he was Strong and he had dignity.” But what we were looking for was something more universal, something one could hold in their hand as a torch based on the ideals of the man simply referred to as “The American Legend.” We spent the rest of the evening trying to determine what quote we could we use to inspire leaders of today to do what is right?
After a few million stars came out and passerby’s raised more than a few eyebrows, we decided that each of us should be able to have our own quote. My personal favorite comes from John Bernard Books in the movie The Shootist: “I won’t be wronged, I won’t be insulted, and I won’t be laid a hand on. I don’t do these things to other people and I expect the same from them.” Roger’s favorite quote is not from a movie but is rather a favorite saying of John Wayne’s, one he liked so much it is on his headstone. “Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. It comes into us at midnight very clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we’ve learned something from yesterday”.
With that we diverged from John Wayne to many a great villain who without exception, regardless of what epic adventure they were in, believed that the end justified the means. All of these great villains were essentially doing the same thing; they were trying to get somewhere or obtain something at the expense of others. It took a legend such as John Wayne to right these wrongs either for himself, as in Chism or as Rooster Cogburn in True Grit, or for his family as in movies such as Big Jake or Cahill U.S. Marshall. Other times he did it for the organization he was representing such as United States of America in the Green Beret’s or In Harms Way.
All this being said, the fallacy comes when we believe that everything will always work out the best for us if we just do what is right. Like the vast majority of the fire service regardless of your hero’s, many of you have sacrificed your own career and even livelihood because you choose to do what you thought was right.
You have chosen to stick up for the truth and to have integrity regardless of the cost to you. You have done what is right.
You have selected not the path of promotion or compliance but the path of courage. John Wayne had this to say about courage; “Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway”. You have chosen to fight battles for values knowing very well that as Capt. Rockwell Torrey (In Harm’s Way): John Wayne would say; “All battles are fought by scared men who’d rather be some place else.”
Often times, it seems as though some strive to put more and shinier things in their retirement shadow box rather than in the moral bank of ethical behavior. Sadly we even consider having more and being more as the only measure of success.
We often times some think that the end will justify the means, which is a position that is always wrong. Doing what is right is often times what is most difficult, that being said it is still what is right. Right is right and doing what is right with courage and dignity may not ever pay off for you in your career but as John Wayne was famous for saying “I have tried to live my life so that my family would love me and my friends respect me. The others can do whatever the hell they please.”
We all know of people in and out of the fire service that have not always necessarily did what we thought was right. This article could have easily focused on these villains of the fire service and their actions. Instead I intended this article to be praise for those of you who have chosen to do what is right. This may be the only accolades you ever get for doing so, however it is you and your type that keeps the great men and women of our fire service providing other humans undying service with dignity and compassion. It is you that are the true American Legends.
For those of you who have sacrificed yourself, I applaud and respect you. Promote yourself today to the position of the keeper of what is right. It is one of the most important and difficult positions you will ever hold. The only thing that you may get to show for it is our gratitude and the ability to always truthfully look in the mirror and say “Good Job, You did what was right”. You will sleep every night knowing that you have made a stand for what gives our chosen profession, steeped in tradition, the respect within our communities; You have done what is right. Regardless of the personal cost, you will rightly so carry on the tradition of an American Legend.
In some sense you may have all followed the advice Marion Morison’s (John Wayne) father gave him while he was growing up: “First is to always keep your word. Second never insult anybody unintentionally, if I insult you, you can be sure I intend to. Third, don’t go around looking for trouble.”
At various times in your career you may not be where you want to be, or you may not be treated as you think you should, yet when all else fails and when the curtain finally closes on your career, remember it is not what is in your retirement shadow box that matters. What count’s is in the legacy you have left behind in the hearts and souls of those you have been an example to.
What we give is much more valuable than what we take away.
To you regardless of your rank or lack thereof, thank you for doing what is right, or as John Wayne would say; “A man’s got to have a code, a creed to live by, no matter his job.”
Keep up the battle; it may seem difficult at times. It will seem scary and at times you may think you are the only one doing what is right. But be assured it is not that difficult, it is actually quite easy. Regardless of the situation, do what is right.
As John Wayne would say: “When in doubt tell the truth.”